By being thankful for every single thing that happens to me and not having any expectations is what keeps me feeling alive. I don’t allow fear to set in, because I know that no matter what happens, I will have experienced something and learned from it. It’s all about being in the moment and allowing things to flow. Don’t try to make the pieces fit together, just let life happen. When you start to reflect on your life, you will see how the pieces fit together naturally. For the first time, I feel like I am on the verge of understanding and conquering my anxiety. I’m in a state of complete mindfulness and nothing feels better than this.
I feel like the key to feeling alive is to practice mindfulness every single moment of your life and maintaining an attitude of gratitude. The key is to start appreciating everything you have in your life in the moment. You must let go of any and all negative energy, because even the smallest ounce can drag you down without you realizing it. When I speak of negative energy, it could be a person who is bringing you down, literally anything you feel isn’t going to benefit your life. You must let go of all judgement from other people and most importantly you must stop judging yourself. You are a human being, like everybody else in this world. It is up to you to be aware of what you are doing in your life and how you decide to feel about it. For example, just because you live your life a certain way doesn’t mean it is wrong, good or bad. It just means that you are doing what feels right for you at that time. Even if later on you realize that what you did wasn’t the best decision, it doesn’t mean you should get upset over it.
A personal example for me is hooking up with someone random one night while I was super drunk and what I thought was even worse is that it wasn’t the first time I have done something like that. At first, I felt the same old feelings of shame, regret and guilt. But, I started to look at the situation differently. I finally understood that it doesn’t matter what the situation looks like in “black and white” and it doesn’t matter what it looks like to everyone else. The only thing that matters is my happiness and I had to find a way to be okay with something I didn’t believe was okay. So, instead of beating myself up over it, I embraced every single emotion for what it was. I felt used, like a slut, because I allowed a stranger to have sex with me. But, I enjoyed it. That’s what I couldn’t escape from and the fact that I enjoyed it, bothered me at first. Then, I decided why not be okay with that? It happened and it wasn’t bad. It just isn’t something I want to happen all the time. Something clicked inside of me. Suddenly, I wasn’t concerned with “feeling dirty”, “feeling like a slut”, or being “easy”. I can smile thinking about that night and the one that followed it, because I learned something critical about myself from that night. I am in control of my actions while I’m sober, and if I choose to drink obsessively I better be prepared to face to the consequences. Basically, I owned up to my actions and took responsibility. I didn’t put blame on the alcohol, or being in a weird state of mind. I simply looked at it as an experience instead of a mistake.
Let me emphasis on this, because it has been a life changing sentence for me here lately. When you view things that happen to you in your life as mistakes, waste of time, or any other negative way, you are cheating yourself from the opportunity of fulling understanding why that happened. Furthermore, you are closing your mind to the negative thoughts and soon enough begin to feel negative about the situation or event. If you change your perspective on what happened and simply open your mind to the idea that whatever happened/happens is a NOT bad thing and nothing that you do is ultimately wrong. Life is about being alive and by doing so, you clearly make memories with others and act a certain way at a certain time. By being non-judgmental to yourself, you allow yourself to grow into someone you never imagined you could be. Once you let go of all that judgment, you will sense a feeling of relief and peace start to creep up on you. All of a sudden, you are no longer a victim to your self-conscious. By being aware of what you are doing and choosing to not feel any way about them allows you to be free and to live life to the fullest. The only person holding you back from happiness is yourself. Most of the time the only person judging you is yourself. Let that sink it for a minute.
Elaborating on this topic, I would say that it is also best to let go of all expectations. The future is simply something that we can not predict, but we can create. The truth is, we can never know what is going to happen 100% of the time, and I have learned to embrace it. Think about it, if you knew exactly what was going to happen, would life even be enjoyable? It’s almost as if life is a huge mystery and every day you uncover a new chapter. I truly embrace every single day now. Another personal example is today. I am off work, enjoying some Pandora-playing my favorite tunes-, drinking a damn good cup of coffee(quality-local brand), and writing down all these amazing thoughts, while glancing out of the window, noticing how beautiful the sunlight looks in my front yard. It is the smallest things, that mean the most to me. I feel like there is nothing more I could be doing. I quit being so hard on myself with all the expectations. Of course, I have goals, wants, and dreams, that I am going to work towards, but I do believe it is critical to take time to enjoy whatever it is you feel like doing in that moment. There is not a way to ever predict these moments. Trust me. I have told myself for days and days, that I was going to write when I arrived at home, or the next day off I am going to do this and that. But, for the past couple of weeks, I felt that I needed to really reflect and take in every single detail around me, and by doing so, something life-changing would occur. I knew that by taking a step back from writing, that I would discover the things I would later write about. Like, I understood that simply experiencing life and not worrying about writing it down, would result in better writing in the future, aka now. I am over-loaded with ideas, thoughts, inspiration, and overall full of positive energy. Just by writing this blog, I can understand that I have WAY WAY too many thoughts to try to put a title on it. Therefore, consequences make you who are, fits perfectly to me. Everything you do in this life is molding you into someone new, you just have to decide who you want to be, and what who you want to grow into. I could go on and on, and I plan to. But suddenly, I want to look at tattoos. So, that’s exactly what I am going to do. Be in the moment and things will start to work out for you. LAW OF ATTRACTION, next blog 😉